Who’s the Boss? The Unexpected Challenges of Transitioning from the Military to Higher EdJo Emanuelson | Student, Christopher Newport University
Part of my problem is that the Army gave me an invaluable crutch I no longer have access to: rank. The structure by which the Army operates is built on a ranking system. It is not always fair because no promotion system is without its flaws, but it was a constant in my ever-changing life. It meant I could walk into a room full of perfect strangers and know exactly where I stood. With a glance I could ascertain the appropriate level of deference for someone based on the symbols on a square of Velcro. These first impressions are not foolproof, of course. Personalities vary across the ranks, but it certainly gave me a starting point to work from.
Without that crutch, I find myself floundering in social situations. I need the structure; I yearn for it every day, but especially on days when it would be most useful. At school, for example, we have group projects assigned. Sometimes we get to pick our groups and sometimes we don’t, yet this doesn’t matter in the long run. The group will meet up and everyone will have their ideas that are blurted out in a very democratic manner. Then everyone goes home and one person does 80 percent of the work because the other group members forget to or have other priorities. It is a huge waste of time because the skills they are supposed to be learning, like time management and group cooperation, are utterly neglected.
This type of exercise is utterly frustrating to me because I don’t know who is in charge of the group. I expect the highest-ranking person to be in charge, but just who is that in a group of civilians? The smartest? The oldest? The one with the highest grade? Or is it the one who takes charge of the meeting, keeps everyone on track and promises to correspond with everyone? The latter seems the most likely candidate because he or she is demonstrating leadership capabilities. I have finally identified the boss and then it hits me, through continued observance, that the person does not actually realize what being the boss entails. He or she tends not to know how to delegate the work while continuing to oversee everything to make sure it gets done. He or she doesn’t send reminders about due dates or check that everyone is contributing. The person doesn’t verify that the project is a coherent piece or that it gets turned in on time. In the end, you realize that this person isn’t leading the group he or she is just the most vocal.
I see this but don’t know what to do about it. In the Army, the road was laid out for me based on rank. If the leader outranks me, I bring my concerns to my NCO (my immediate superior). The concerns will then be communicated up the chain of command until it reaches someone of sufficient rank to talk to that leader. If the leader has the same rank as me, I speak with him or her directly, privately. If the problem isn’t corrected, I speak to the NCO. If I outrank the leader, I identify what’s wrong, what needs to be fixed and when it needs to be fixed by. If the individual doesn’t correct the problem, I speak to the NCO before any further action is taken. If I am the NCO, the leader will wish he or she hadn’t ignored me.
But how do I handle this at school? I don’t feel comfortable correcting acquaintances and near-strangers. If my group members ignore my advice, what then? I can complain to the professor, who may or may not be sympathetic to my problem. More than likely, I will be told it is my responsibility to make the group function and, if I can’t, the group grade will suffer. So my only recourse seems to be leaving rude messages on Facebook, which is utterly juvenile. Without my rank, I have no power to reinforce my decisions and I feel impotent amongst children who seem to care nothing for my experience as a leader, and even less about how seriously I take my school work.
Author Perspective: Student